How to break the news to your parents that you’re getting a divorce

By: Liz Davies Family Lawyer  16/10/2014
Keywords: law firm, Divorce, family lawyers

I suppose it is never easy to tell someone that your relationship has come to an end, least of all your parents who you no doubt look up to. I would advise that if you find yourself in the position where you have to tell your parents that you do it sooner rather than later. Nothing could be more upsetting for them to hear that their child’s marriage is at an end by a neighbour or other relative. If possible ring them before you go around and ask them if you can have some time alone with them to discuss an important issue. This would be much better than ringing them and giving them the news or even worse by text message. To a certain extent plan what you are going to say to them. They may not need to know all the “ins and outs” of the breakdown. It may be a shock for them, it may not. Either way let them absorb what you say and allow them to ask questions. Don’t feel you have to answer everything there and then and it may be that you don’t have the answers at that stage. If there are children involved they will of course want to know about them and you can reassure them that you will always have the children’s best interests at heart and ask them to support the children through this difficult time and allow them to spend time with them if they want to. They will of course want to support you and that is understandable but if possible ask that they don’t take sides. It cannot be easy to hear “I told you not to marry him/her”. The best thing that they can do is support you through the end of the relationship by being there if you need someone to talk to or just being there even if you don’t want to talk. After all they know you better than anyone and that can include your spouse.

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